This really bites

[Smoking Duck]

Tim,
Hang in there, buddy!  Times may seem rough right now but there is always a rainbow at the end of the clouds.  Sometimes, it just seems the walk to get to the end of those clouds seems longer than usual.  You and your Dad are in my thoughts and prayers.

Marc

[seemore]

Tiny, Scott and I are saying our prayers for you and your Dad.
June

[deb415611]

Tiny,

Sorry to hear this.  You & your dad are in our thoughts.

Deb

[NePaSmoKer]

Hang in there Tim, we are all praying for your dads health.

nepas

[pensrock]

Tiny, I'm really sorry to hear things have gotten so bad for you and your dad. I know it had to be a very tough decision but it was one that had to be made. I know you have thought it over long and hard and I'm sure it was the best choice possible. I will keep you and your dad in my prayers also.
pens

[carnie1]

Tim, Sorry to hear about your Dad, I really hope I don't have to do that one day ( I'm an only child ) I can just imagine what you are going through. My prayers are with you and your family.

[NoCaSmoka]

I'm new here, but I'm in the health field.  Hospice is a place where your dad can expect compassion and comfort.  Sometimes that's the best gift you can give.  Not an easy one for sure.

All the best to you and your family.

[beefmann]

tiny,

I am so sorry to hear about your  dad as hard that is to do.. it is the right thing to do. You have a lot on your  mind and a lot to take care of... go take care of your family and dad..

May your dad be as comfortable as he can be..

my prayers are with you and your family .. we are here for you and if you  need a  shoulder to lean on .. you can use mine...


Beef

[La Quinta]

Tiny...well...we're here for ya...gotta be hard..but you have a lot of friends here and I am proudly one of them. Keep your chin up kid...this is tough stuff...our prayers for you and Dad.

Tracy and Bob

[Smokin Soon]

Tiny, at this point all I can recommend is is savor the good times with your Dad and be thankful that there is care for him, as I have been through this. I lost my Dad in 95, and it was tough. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk to someone.

[Gizmo]

Thank you, guys.  I may need to lean on you more in the future, but we're good so far...just shedding a tear or two every now and again.

Lean away there Tiny.
Our shoulders are broad, our spirit is strong, our love is great for all those in need.
From all of your extended family.

[Kummok]

Been there Tiny....and it sux. Almost two years ago and still miss him and mom....I still think of some gun question that I want to ask him or a recipe question that I want to ask her and then I remember that I can't ask them anymore. They both had a good life though and we all loved and laughed together for a season...I'll cherish those times as will you.

Echoing others on this thread, you'll find hospice to be a place of wonderfully caring folks, if your experience is the same as several of ours. I didn't hold much stock in those kind of things before we were exposed to them...I was wrong in my thinking and have met some true angels on earth through long term care and hospice care, as I'm sure will you. But above all things that gave/gives us comfort is our faith....mom had it, dad had it, and we have it and the hope that it gives us carries us high above the sorrow/loneliness that would otherwise prevail. Don't mean to preach, just to offer words of comfort and hope... and prayer for support...

[IKnowWood]

So sorry Tim.  Having recently helping my Wife thru that last year, I know its hard.  But at the same time its comforting to know he will be cared for and reduce as much pain as possible.  We are all here for you.

[Tiny Tim]

Once again, thank you, everybody for being there (here?) for me.  Last night's visit had many a tear, but this time they were joyous in why they were being shed.

Here's the story.  We've been struggling for quite a while to put some liquor back on the shelf, both due to slow sales and from having to "borrow" so much cash from the till while Dad's been in the hospital.  Also, we had a huge bill come in for the annual liquor license.  Every time I came up with a way to get the license paid for and a little bit of liquor in, something would dash the cause, be it an unexpected bill, Dad splurging on something that, while needed, we really could have done without for a while, or people simply not paying as much on their bill as I/we expected them to. 

The latest involved a plan to liquidate an asset that we would not be needing any more...Dad's newest truck that hasn't been driven for a very long time.  It's technically paid off, but the bank has the title to secure our business loan and a mortgage on the house (either building is worth enough to pay off the whole crap by itself), and when I approached the banker for the title, he said he couldn't release it without paying down the note(s) with the money from the sale.

As you may gather, I was not a very happy boy at that time.  While sitting here stewing about it yesterday, I remembered an offer to buy our Hydraulic Hose crimping machine, so I looked into what I could possibly get for it.  Numbers came out okay, wish they were higher, but they were okay, so I called the guy interested and he talked to his brothers.  They came back with a lower offer, but I really couldn't refuse it.  Done deal.

Now, are you still here or did I bore you to death already?  I got down to the hospital to visit Dad around 5:45 last night, while he was having supper.  We made small talk until he got done with that.  I took a deep breath and told him that I was able to find a way to get the liquor license paid for and to get some liquor on the shelf.  A smile instantly came to his face.  I told him how and the smile got even bigger, so I thought I would try to calm him a bit with something that I had learned about the loans, that I didn't think was that great of news...the business loan is covered by "credit life" meaning that if/when he passes, the loan is paid off, but the house loan isn't.  This made him so freakin' happy I thought he was going to have a heart attack.  At that point I knew I wasn't supposed to due to bacteria and other crap, but I just had to give that man a big hug since we were both crying happy tears.  When we let go, he said the only thing that could make me shed even more tears....he said he was proud of me.  My Daddy said he was proud of me.  Still getting choked up writing that here.

If I wasn't so blasted fat, I would have started dancing a jig, and I don't think I would have stopped yet.

[sodak]

Cool story.  Sounds like a proud dad raised a great kid.  My prayers to both of you.