DoW,
Like a large family, we all tend to cojole, tease and otherwise hassle each other. Perceived insensitive comments like the one I made was only in jest, and I want to apologize to you. I hope you will stick around. Moms seem to be the one area that I guess we can't tease each other about, and I am sorry that I made light of the situation that caused so much grief for you.
Hope Mom is OK, pissed, but ok, and hope you call the press to question your local P.D.'s handling of this situation. A reporter there might dig into this a little more, and perhaps give the P.D. a little heat publically.
Bill